How To Ask For Help During Job Search
Andy Agouridis
Andy Agouridis | 4 Feb 2025
Finding a job can be challenging, especially if you're doing it alone. But you know what can make it easier? Reaching out to your network. Many job seekers feel hesitant to ask for support, but remember: asking for help isn't a sign of weakness - it's a sign of proactivity. Tapping into your network not only makes the process less isolating but can also help you reach your career goals faster.
The good news? Most individuals are willing to help if you ask them the right way. In this blog, we'll explore effective ways to ask for job search help, practical examples, and common mistakes to avoid. Let's get started!
Key Points to Consider When Asking for Help
How you ask for help in your job search depends on the person you are requesting, your relationship with them, and the support you need. Here are some considerations to keep in mind when leveraging your network for job hunting:
1. Identify who to ask
The first step in getting help during your job hunt is identifying the right people to support you. While doing this, you should keep in mind two things: who you can reach out to and how they can help you. Think of your support network - your friends, family, and colleagues. The closer the connection you have to a person, the more they are likely to help you out.
But you don't have to restrict yourself to your immediate network. You can use platforms like LinkedIn to connect with alums, people from the industry, or recruiters. It can help you discover new opportunities and different viewpoints.
When approaching someone, also consider what sort of help you need. If you need insights into an industry, contact experienced professionals in the field. If you need guidance on your career direction, consider finding a mentor. If you need emotional support during your job search, friends and family are usually the biggest help.
2. Join communities
If you want to expand your network and get expert advice, consider joining professional communities. For example, on Glassdoor, you can explore different Bowls, connect with like-minded professionals, and find the support you need. Here is a snapshot of how these Bowls could help you:
3. Be specific about your needs
When communicating your job search needs, be as specific as possible. Avoid broad statements like "I would appreciate your help in my job search." Instead, you could say, "I am looking for finance roles at startups and would appreciate any introductions you could make." This makes it easier for the other person to support you.
4. Consider timing and medium
Asking for help in a job search should be done professionally and politely. Avoid contacting people during potentially busy times, like Monday mornings or holidays. Instead, aim to contact them when they have some spare time to help you.
Also, request through a suitable medium. In most cases, a thoughtful email or LinkedIn message is appropriate. But if you want more detailed advice, consider proposing a coffee chat or virtual discussion. It's okay to follow up politely if you are still waiting to hear back but avoid swamping them with messages.
5. State your value
When you're looking for help, it's important that the people you're asking know about your skills, experiences, and achievements. Feel free to share your value proposition with others. It will help them understand what you bring to the table, and they'll be better positioned to advocate for you. For example, you could say, ''I was recently recognised as the top sales performer for exceeding my targets by 32%.''
6. Show appreciation
Express gratitude anytime someone tries to help you out, even if it doesn't lead to a job offer. Being thankful always helps. It can help you maintain positive relationships with your connections and can ensure you'll receive help from them in the future if you need it. You don't have to write any fluff. Keep it direct, simple, and sweet.
Here is an example: "Thank you for lining me up with [Contact's Name]; you've been of great help! Let me know if there’s anything I can do for you."
Examples of How to Ask for Help
In this section, we'll look at some templates you could use for different scenarios:
1. Requesting for an introduction
"I’m exploring new opportunities in [X industry] and thought of you because of your expertise and experience. Given your time in the industry, I was wondering if you might know someone who could offer guidance or advice. If it’s not too much trouble, could you connect me to any relevant people? I’d really appreciate your support!”
2. Asking for feedback
"I am working on my job applications for the Digital Marketing manager role. Since you already have experience in the field, your feedback on my resume would be of great help. Could you have a quick look when you have the time? Thank you!"
3. Messaging a mentor
"I hope you're doing well! I'm at a turning point in my career, and you are the first person to come to mind. When you shared your perspective on (give a specific example of their advice>, it really helped me make the right decision. Your suggestions have always been constructive and practical. I'm exploring opportunities in (X industry/role) and would love to hear what you say. Would you be available for a quick coffee chat?"
Asking for Help: Common Pitfalls to Avoid
In this section, we’ll look at some common mistakes to avoid when asking for job search help:
1. Don't neglect relationships
Healthy relationships aren't built in a day. They take time and effort. You can't just reach out when you need a favour - steady, real interactions matter. Make an effort to keep in touch. For instance, wish them on their birthday or holidays, congratulate them on job promotions or milestones, or leave thoughtful comments on their posts. These little acts have a significant impact on keeping your ties strong. When you do this, asking for help feels more normal, and people are more likely to say yes.
2. Don't focus only on yourself
When job-hunting, it’s easy to get caught up in your own timelines and goals. But, you should be sensitive of other people too. Consider their schedule, work commitments, and perspective when seeking help. Always be thankful, and if you can, offer something in return for their help. It could be writing a recommendation on Linkedin, endorsing their skills, or promoting their work with your network.
3. Don't overstep boundaries
It's important to respect the boundaries of your relationship. Don't ask for things that put undue pressure on them, such as expecting them to reply immediately, asking for sensitive information, or seeking introductions they aren’t comfortable with. Also, be considerate of their schedule and obligations. When you're respectful and polite, you're more likely to get help and keep the relationship strong for later on.
Remember, job hunting doesn't need to be a solo mission. Whether it's using platforms like Glassdoor, connecting with professionals, or leaning on your family & friends, don't feel guilty about asking for support. A little help can go a long way; you've got this!
Andy Agouridis
Andy is on a mission to help candidates do what they love. Apart from being a Glassdoor contributor, he is the Director of CareerHigher, a career writer, and a speaker. He has a background in HR with Fortune 100 businesses, holds an MSc in HRM, and is a Chartered member of the CIPD.

